Playing it Safe in an Unsafe World

June 21, 2017  |   Uncategorized   |     |   1 Comment

As long as we wish for safety we will have difficulty pursuing what matters. - Peter Block I just read an article that in our relatively safe environment and amazing country (USA)...people are more worried and stressed than ever. There could be many reasons why the polling results reflect more anxiety in what most would consider one of the safest and wealthiest countries in the world. No one can generalize for any one person because all of us have our own unique worries and fears. However, we are all held in a common bondage of a propensity to be "fearful". What or who is on your list of fear makers is as varied as the people you interview. Let's step back to some broader distinctions that might help at least with perspective. Full of fear for ________. (Here's my big list, you ...

Its time to leave the Hyphenated-World we live in…

December 28, 2016  |   Faith, Life, and Leadership Experiences   |     |   4 Comments

Author Note: "I've been thinking about what I want to write about for quite a while. The nice thing about writing my posts is I write when I want and the content is what I want to write about. All the well-respected bloggers will tell you exactly how to get more followers and share all kinds of best practices and tips for a successful blog. When I write what I think people want to hear it never comes from my heart. If its from my head maybe its not bad, but it just isn't worth me taking your time to read it or my time to write. Either way I don't have my self-identity completely wrapped up in whether I'm a well-read blogger/poster/writer of heart things. It has to be that way. So, here I go with something that's been on my mind for a ...

When I think about ME…

June 21, 2016  |   Faith, Life, and Leadership Experiences   |     |   0 Comment

When I think about me... I rarely if ever see much of anyone else's point of view. My "listener" is shutdown and locked up tight right from the get go. I'm looking for personal justification. I want my ideas reinforced by shared ideologies and so I surround myself with clones of my own thinking and background. Its a narrow sample size of diverse ideas. I become even more blinded about what others are going through and/or how they want to contribute to me. I can't feel their love and concern or even their hurt or pain. It's me and my world...it truly is a "me-world". I am fixated on a narrow band of issues and ideas. It is challenging to even consider anything outside my view out the front door. Yet neighbors exist on each side of me. I can start to make excuses for ...

Relationship: The critical element of life

When we think about our lives or the lives of those we know and admire, there are usually qualities or aspects of that person that we appreciate or treasure. It could be they helped us out when times were economically tough or sat quietly next to us at the passing of a loved one. They might be a parent or guardian that built into you values that now in your "ripe ol' age" you can appreciate. They likely disciplined you severely or had a very tough and timely conversation with you to get you straightened out. Maybe forgiveness and a kind word when it seemed undeserved. With so much of our life spent in career and work, often it may be the boss that gave you a chance or talked straight with you when it really mattered. The coworker that helped you finish a project in addition to their work load. ...

Peculiar is, as Peculiar does: Are you defined by your values and your differences.

July 17, 2015  |   Faith, Life, and Leadership Experiences   |     |   1 Comment

Recently I was working with one of my peculiar friends delivering training to some folks. We were driving back to the airport and just reviewing the session in our minds. These folks weren't my clients and I was helping my friend/colleague. The conversation evolved to how people showed up over the 2 days we were there. Coaches, facilitators often assess this aspect of "showing up". Its a combo of the person's contributions, attitude, and overall presence in the room. I said it seemed that a few folks weren't too tolerant of some of the more "peculiar" folks in their ideas. Not that they were rude, just not asking for the opportunity to understand a point of view better. I thrive on gaining different points of view. As coach its my job to illicit broader perspective and in fact, seek it out. In doing that, I role model the ...