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Coaching and Mentoring

Are these Active Influence Roles the Same – or Different? Key Points: Mentoring involves giving wisdom and advice Coaching involves supporting people with inquiry and self-discovery Leaders must choose the best approach to use “in the now” When leaders become truly skilled in their ability to actively influence others, they will intuitively shift roles based on what is happening in the moment. They may glide back and forth between coaching, mentoring, facilitating, managing and leading, sometimes within the space of a single meeting. They choose the best approach to use “in the now.” In this blog post I’m going to focus on two of the roles an adept active influencer must be absolutely clear on – ...

Influencing to the Third Power – Those Outside of Your Control: Impacting Those That Influence Your Outcomes

August 28, 2018  |   Active Influence,Coaching,Leadership Development   |     |   0 Comment

Those Outside of Your Control: Impacting Those That Influence Your Outcomes KEY POINTS: Facilitative Leadership of Coaching Strategic Power of Coaching Leading Transformation and Change Systems Coaching Influencing to the Third Power is about expanding your capabilities to influence through relationships. Your power comes from being strategically involved with the entire system that impacts your ability to achieve your desired outcomes. Fundamentally it requires a broader awareness of the people and activities outside of your immediate network and control -- the seen and unseen forces that stop you from advancing your agenda of success. Each of the key points we cover in this post are intricately related to each other, if not inseparable. I’ve delineated them as such, so that we can have a more refined understanding of ...

Influencing to the Second Power – Your Employees & Organization

Going Deeper into Active influence KEY POINTS: Influencing Tomorrow Influencing for Results Knowing the Right Influence Method Group Influencing Influencing to the Second Power is about you, your employees, and the entire organization. The Second Power includes direct reports and any “others” within your sphere of organizational influence. This post is about growing your power to influence a valuable and very strategic asset. The greatest competitive advantage for organizations and its leaders, given equal access to technology and economic capital, is its human capital. Are you building equity with it and within it? The key to growing your power is staying engaged and involved. With product parity becoming more common and e-commerce more accessible to virtually anyone as a technology, your people’s ability to create brand experiences is paramount to sustained success and influence in the market place. It is the most valuable ...

Influencing to the First Power – Yourself

Building on the concept of Active influence KEY POINTS: Self-Awareness The Power of Presence Personal Development Knowing how you can and do impact others through your influence could be defined as a big objective in the concept of Active Influence™. The reality of influencing others "consciously and appropriately" requires that we understand ourselves and the influence we have on our own actions, thoughts, and power. In other words, it requires self-awareness. Especially the power-limiting actions, which are behaviors and habits often hard to disrupt or eliminate.  Charles Duhigg in his book, The Power of Habit, talks about the neuroscience involved in changing our patterns of behavior. He talks about habit loops that become well established in us both consciously and unconsciously. If you have any curiosity about the power of habit loops just watch yourself sometime. I will share one example that is simple and ...

Active Influence™ — Know Your Power

[caption id="attachment_1235" align="alignright" width="176"] Mark Uhlenberg established The Heartwood Group, LLC to actively influence client's outcomes.[/caption] What does “Active Influence” mean and why is it important to achieving results and transformation? Active Influence™ is best described by the words "engaged" and "involved". It is the antithesis of being passive or reactive. As a leader, business owner, spouse, or parent; you can find yourself becoming less engaged or involved with your relationships, employees, teams, and businesses. It may be an issue about some key employees you don’t want to take on or aren’t handling effectively. It could be an issue in the business or industry that causes you to “hope” for something to work itself out when all the signs say otherwise. The reasons are many and recognizing when passivity happens is the key. My experience working in and with organizations over the years is ...

Relationship: The critical element of life

When we think about our lives or the lives of those we know and admire, there are usually qualities or aspects of that person that we appreciate or treasure. It could be they helped us out when times were economically tough or sat quietly next to us at the passing of a loved one. They might be a parent or guardian that built into you values that now in your "ripe ol' age" you can appreciate. They likely disciplined you severely or had a very tough and timely conversation with you to get you straightened out. Maybe forgiveness and a kind word when it seemed undeserved. With so much of our life spent in career and work, often it may be the boss that gave you a chance or talked straight with you when it really mattered. The coworker that helped you finish a project in addition to their work load. ...

Fundamentals of Living Into Your Future – Never give up

August 28, 2014  |   Coaching,Core Ideals For Leaders   |     |   0 Comment

Photo by Ben FjellangerThere has been a lot written about leading teams and overcoming obstacles together. Many pertain to sports teams, a business or family. I recently watched the movie Lone Survivor on a long plane ride home from Europe. A compelling story about a small group of Navy Seal warriors dedicating life and all to each other. It was moving beyond explanation to me as I cried like a baby in the quiet darkness of the plane while others slept. I was convicted and inspired as they listed all the young men who gave their all at the end of the film along with their families. Left only with self reflection on how I would have responded in that situation. I've twice been faced directly with the potential loss of my life. Nothing ...

Wisdom: Leaving “well enough” alone…

Have you ever heard this or even better had it aimed directly at or to you? "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!" ("For crying out loud" can be added either prior to or after for more emphasis.) "ENOUGH ALREADY!!!" "I've taken all I can TAKE!!! BACK OFF, will ya?!!!" "What is it about NO that YOU don't understand?!!!" "If I've said it ONCE I've said it TWICE...." "What, are you NOT LISTENING or just PLAIN STUPID?!!!" "LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE!!!" Was it said in a way (or a tone of voice) that you knew--- you just took a conversation one step beyond what someone could tolerate? I wish with all my heart I could say I haven't done it. Alas, I've been unwise and lacked the sense to know that I needed to just leave "well enough" alone. I am a driven person. My theory is ...

Wisdom: Courage is a fearful experience

December 18, 2013  |   Coaching,Leadership Development,Self Management   |     |   0 Comment

Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but here I go. In the Wizard of Oz it wasn't the Scarecrow that got wisdom. It was the "Cowardly Lion"! And I think I can prove it or at least give a perspective on why fear, courage, and wisdom are not separated. In the movie, you may recall all 4 sojourners (the girl, the scarecrow, the tin man, and the lion) have a personal dilemma. Each finds strength in coming together against all odds to achieve the unthinkable...steal the witches broom. Each has their own fear. When they meet up there are varied levels of experiences, this movie is rich in personal courage. Of which I lacked every time those dang flying monkeys came on the screen. I hated those creatures. The witch was a piece of cake, but those monkeys freaked me ...

Wisdom: Wise Guy eh?!…Nyuck, Nyuck, Nyuck!!!!!

December 12, 2013  |   Leadership Development,Self Management   |     |   0 Comment

Larry: "I can't see! I can't see! Its all gone dark!" (in a worried voice) Moe: "What's the matter? Why can't you see?" (alarmed voice) Larry: "I got my eyes closed." (smarty pants, sing songy, whiny voice) Moe: "Wise guy eh?!!" (gruff, growling voice and head bop/doink sound) Not sure using "The Three Stooges" in a conversation on wisdom and leadership happens that often. I love the simple humor in the exchange above with Mo and Larry. The simple fact that we have our eyes closed might be the reason we cannot see. Mo doesn't like the fact that, once again, he's been played a stooge by a stooge. So, as per their shtick...he smacks Larry on the back of the head. Yep, Larry is a wise guy in one sense. He knows how to provoke his partner.