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Coaching and Mentoring

Are these Active Influence Roles the Same – or Different? Key Points: Mentoring involves giving wisdom and advice Coaching involves supporting people with inquiry and self-discovery Leaders must choose the best approach to use “in the now” When leaders become truly skilled in their ability to actively influence others, they will intuitively shift roles based on what is happening in the moment. They may glide back and forth between coaching, mentoring, facilitating, managing and leading, sometimes within the space of a single meeting. They choose the best approach to use “in the now.” In this blog post I’m going to focus on two of the roles an adept active influencer must be absolutely clear on – ...

Influencing to the Third Power – Those Outside of Your Control: Impacting Those That Influence Your Outcomes

August 28, 2018  |   Active Influence,Coaching,Leadership Development   |     |   0 Comment

Those Outside of Your Control: Impacting Those That Influence Your Outcomes KEY POINTS: Facilitative Leadership of Coaching Strategic Power of Coaching Leading Transformation and Change Systems Coaching Influencing to the Third Power is about expanding your capabilities to influence through relationships. Your power comes from being strategically involved with the entire system that impacts your ability to achieve your desired outcomes. Fundamentally it requires a broader awareness of the people and activities outside of your immediate network and control -- the seen and unseen forces that stop you from advancing your agenda of success. Each of the key points we cover in this post are intricately related to each other, if not inseparable. I’ve delineated them as such, so that we can have a more refined understanding of ...

Influencing to the First Power – Yourself

Building on the concept of Active influence KEY POINTS: Self-Awareness The Power of Presence Personal Development Knowing how you can and do impact others through your influence could be defined as a big objective in the concept of Active Influence™. The reality of influencing others "consciously and appropriately" requires that we understand ourselves and the influence we have on our own actions, thoughts, and power. In other words, it requires self-awareness. Especially the power-limiting actions, which are behaviors and habits often hard to disrupt or eliminate.  Charles Duhigg in his book, The Power of Habit, talks about the neuroscience involved in changing our patterns of behavior. He talks about habit loops that become well established in us both consciously and unconsciously. If you have any curiosity about the power of habit loops just watch yourself sometime. I will share one example that is simple and ...

Active Influence™ — Know Your Power

[caption id="attachment_1235" align="alignright" width="176"] Mark Uhlenberg established The Heartwood Group, LLC to actively influence client's outcomes.[/caption] What does “Active Influence” mean and why is it important to achieving results and transformation? Active Influence™ is best described by the words "engaged" and "involved". It is the antithesis of being passive or reactive. As a leader, business owner, spouse, or parent; you can find yourself becoming less engaged or involved with your relationships, employees, teams, and businesses. It may be an issue about some key employees you don’t want to take on or aren’t handling effectively. It could be an issue in the business or industry that causes you to “hope” for something to work itself out when all the signs say otherwise. The reasons are many and recognizing when passivity happens is the key. My experience working in and with organizations over the years is ...

Relationship: The critical element of life

When we think about our lives or the lives of those we know and admire, there are usually qualities or aspects of that person that we appreciate or treasure. It could be they helped us out when times were economically tough or sat quietly next to us at the passing of a loved one. They might be a parent or guardian that built into you values that now in your "ripe ol' age" you can appreciate. They likely disciplined you severely or had a very tough and timely conversation with you to get you straightened out. Maybe forgiveness and a kind word when it seemed undeserved. With so much of our life spent in career and work, often it may be the boss that gave you a chance or talked straight with you when it really mattered. The coworker that helped you finish a project in addition to their work load. ...

Wisdom: Leaving “well enough” alone…

Have you ever heard this or even better had it aimed directly at or to you? "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!" ("For crying out loud" can be added either prior to or after for more emphasis.) "ENOUGH ALREADY!!!" "I've taken all I can TAKE!!! BACK OFF, will ya?!!!" "What is it about NO that YOU don't understand?!!!" "If I've said it ONCE I've said it TWICE...." "What, are you NOT LISTENING or just PLAIN STUPID?!!!" "LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE!!!" Was it said in a way (or a tone of voice) that you knew--- you just took a conversation one step beyond what someone could tolerate? I wish with all my heart I could say I haven't done it. Alas, I've been unwise and lacked the sense to know that I needed to just leave "well enough" alone. I am a driven person. My theory is ...

Wisdom: Courage is a fearful experience

December 18, 2013  |   Coaching,Leadership Development,Self Management   |     |   0 Comment

Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but here I go. In the Wizard of Oz it wasn't the Scarecrow that got wisdom. It was the "Cowardly Lion"! And I think I can prove it or at least give a perspective on why fear, courage, and wisdom are not separated. In the movie, you may recall all 4 sojourners (the girl, the scarecrow, the tin man, and the lion) have a personal dilemma. Each finds strength in coming together against all odds to achieve the unthinkable...steal the witches broom. Each has their own fear. When they meet up there are varied levels of experiences, this movie is rich in personal courage. Of which I lacked every time those dang flying monkeys came on the screen. I hated those creatures. The witch was a piece of cake, but those monkeys freaked me ...

Wisdom: Wise Guy eh?!…Nyuck, Nyuck, Nyuck!!!!!

December 12, 2013  |   Leadership Development,Self Management   |     |   0 Comment

Larry: "I can't see! I can't see! Its all gone dark!" (in a worried voice) Moe: "What's the matter? Why can't you see?" (alarmed voice) Larry: "I got my eyes closed." (smarty pants, sing songy, whiny voice) Moe: "Wise guy eh?!!" (gruff, growling voice and head bop/doink sound) Not sure using "The Three Stooges" in a conversation on wisdom and leadership happens that often. I love the simple humor in the exchange above with Mo and Larry. The simple fact that we have our eyes closed might be the reason we cannot see. Mo doesn't like the fact that, once again, he's been played a stooge by a stooge. So, as per their shtick...he smacks Larry on the back of the head. Yep, Larry is a wise guy in one sense. He knows how to provoke his partner.

Wisdom: Embracing Truth

I remember one of the questions a senior fraternity brother asked me when I was a freshman pledge. We had to get all the "active" members to sign our "paddle". That piece of oak was our companion for 7 days of sleepless nights and endless questions. Those signatures were a key ritual. (I will save you a lot of detail on "hell" week...its really pretty tame.) Each pledge had to go to each active member and receive a question. It could be about history of your college, the fraternity, or local chapter trivia. It was a good way to make pledges seek out answers and gain more wisdom and knowledge. We often were given hints on where to find what we were looking for, but just as often we were left to seek it on our own. Occasionally a few ...

Wisdom: Keep it Simple…not Stupid

September 30, 2013  |   Leadership Development   |     |   0 Comment

“Everything should be made as simple as possible. But not simpler.” - Albert Einstein I have great clients. Great clients help you be a better person and professional. In many ways I see myself as the collector or a collection of their wisdom. My job is to help them clarify and articulate their thoughts and ideas to their teams or organizations. It is the coolest when you see them gaining lots of traction with their team improving their conversations and actions. Often they have learned ways to "keep it simple" or straightforward. Sticking to the fundamentals. Sounds simple doesn't it? Just keep it simple. However, what I'm learning as a coach of leaders is that it can be difficult to envision simplicity when dealing with very complex problems or relationships in the moment. Uh oh, guess we didn't plan well for this. Or---I  will deal with it later, but ...